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Speaking in public - aaaargh!
Wasn't sure whether to post this under Writing Problems or Writing Successes.
I absolutely hate standing up in front of people and talking, even about subjects I know back to front. I just don't have the confidence, and I blush, ramble and contradict myself. This is why I write instead; it flows, I can be me.
The thought of speaking on the radio, or even worse, on TV is terrifying.
I know I'm not even 'out there', but as a budding writer I'm thinking of the (potential) future!
Anyone got any advice, tips or hypnosis suggestions??!
(Will be back this evening - lunchbreak's over)
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When I did a radio slot- five minutes in 2007, I just blotted out the fact there were a lot of people listening and held the conversation with the guy doing the show.
Learn what you are going to say, don't just takes notes. But learn it not word for word, in a general way, so that bullet points remind you of what to say. If you learn it off by heart if you go wrong you get panicked and stick at that point. If you've learnt it well and can say it differently each time then you will be able to just move on to the next point.
If you have to speak on radio or TV ask for what questions you will be asked and learn answers, in the same way as above so you don't sound rehearsed. Get your friends and family to 'interview' you. Gets kids to, they will see it as a game. Have a couple of spare things to say.
Smile, take deep breaths and speak slowly and clearly so people can hear you.
There are, if you do feel desperate, often evening class kinds of things. Like, my local church has an advert in it for the local speakers society where people can go to learn about public speaking, practise and become part of an informal register, talking about the things they like (i.e. from there we had a speaker about Jane Austen.)
I have built up the weeniest bit of confidence over the last three years as every month I train small groups of staff in how to write for the web, and how to use the system that lets them update our organisation's websites.
I did a talk last month to about 25 people about web accessibility and the speech-enabling system we had just signed up to. That seemed to go down well though I was shaking like a leaf. Nothing to do with local 'dignitaries and councillors', just... I don't know, getting it wrong maybe.
I have written a course on using the Internet to research your family history - haven't presented it yet, haven't had the time, but actually I'm not worried about that one because I am truly passionate about it. I also did a speech at the naming ceremony we held for our daughter at a wood henge - I think I was so proud of my baby, and getting it right for her, that I forgot to be nervous. I think what I need to do - when in a public-speaking situation, is try to associate with how I felt at the ceremony. That's why I think I could use a bit of hypnosis, or NLP.
My other problems are that I tend to say things that are inappropriate - that's either nerves or lack of respect! And Liz - no question of me being able to learn anything off-by-heart! I have never, ever been able to remember facts, that's why I hate exams. I'm alright remembering how to do things, but not necessarily the reasons why! Sometimes I seriously wonder whether it's a 'condition' of some sort!
daughter: what are you going to say?
me: no idea
daughter: you're just going to wing it?
me: yes
daughter: hope you don't embarrass yourself and me
me: don't worry.
I knew the opening line and the closing line, the rest - came from spirit and from my heart. Afterwards an uncle asked me for a copy of the talk ... was shocked to find there wasn't one.
A real fun organisation that pushes your boundaries.
Once I wouldn't say Boo to a goose, (theoretically) have now spoken to audience of over 500. No problem.
See their website. Toastmasters International and find a club near you.
Very useful, and it did help a few people gain confidence in reading aloud.
Thanks everyone. :)
That's it, Lily, that's the answer.
Good for you getting to Woodhenge, by the way. We got there a couple of years ago. What a great place to bless the bairn.
It probably wouldn't be so bad if I'm asked direct questions about a novel as I'm bound to be passionate about that, it's if they ask about me, and my opinions. I'm so fickle - I change my mind from one day to the next (Gemini thing again). Worse still, if they ask anything academic - I manage to misunderstand things and make a complete fool of myself.
Oh well. I'll just have to practise - and try the tips and maybe go on a course, and, and, and...
I find it helpful to have a drink of water handy and take regular sips, have key points on cards in large print for moments when the mind goes blank and to smile - hopefully not too manically. Encouraging people to ask questions also gives breathing space.
Good luck.