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Having a baby when you didn't know you are pregnant

edited December 2012 in Off-topic
These stories always amaze me how can you not know?


  • sorry should be were pregnant I think, have started on the New Years Eve wine early
  • Obviously didn't have a problem with morning sickness...
  • This article from our local paper explains why, Nefertari.

  • Carol, that link was the most annoying thing I've ever heard - should come with a warning...
  • that's amazing. Don't click on the bit lower down "Bonkers birth stories" - I got a pink flashing warning and got out quickly!
  • I'm sorry, but I just cannot ever believe that this happens. Surely women must be aware that their body is changing? There are so many indicators of pregnancy (I won't bother our male friends with all the gory details...sexist I know!) The only females who may not know I think would be very young sexually unaware girls and possibly menopausal ladies.
    After all we have just celebrated the only real virgin birth.
  • [quote=Lizy] Don't click on the bit lower down "Bonkers birth stories" - I got a pink flashing warning and got out quickly![/quote]

    I avoid them like the plague.
  • I'm not sure. I remember friends, when we were much younger, who didn't have a clue what their bodies were up to. It wasn't due to lack of education, just that things didn't change that much.
  • Sadly there are still girls like that in Nottingham, Baggy.
  • Like what? They had cycles that didn't change from one day to another. There's nothing sad about that.

    When I said they didn't have a clue I meant it was because their bodies didn't conform to what some might deem to be normal.
  • There was that soldier made the headlines recently who was pregnant and didn't know it.

    Not everyone is lucky enough to be given the signs they need to know they're pregnant. Everyone is different.

    I bet half or more women out there don't realise they've miscarried ie a heavy period isn't always just a heavy period.
  • True. We are all different, which is why we're so interesting...
  • I was 19 weeks pregnant with my THIRD child before I found out, so it's not as if I didn't know the drill. Even then it came as quite a surprise. To be fair though, there were no "usual" signs and at that point movement had been restricted to those butterflies that anyone can get - so that's my excuse and I'm sticking to it. :rolleyes:

    My sister had a friend (married and in her late twenties) who gave birth and hadn't known right up until her husband rushed her to the hospital when she was in labour. She was a very big girl and thought she had eaten something untoward or that she was having an apendicitis attack or something. They had been trying for many many years to have a child and had been told they would never be able to. Personally, I think by that stage you'd have sussed out something strange was happening in there, but who am I to judge?
  • Yes, I knew a girl who had no idea. She had no signs and wore jeans all the way through. She ended up giving birth on the toilet.
  • I am putting on weight but I am sure I'm not pregnant............ ;)
  • hmmmm

    "is thoughtful as eyes Stan up and down"
  • My sister got to six months and didn't know she was pregnant because there were NO symptoms - everything happening as normal each month. She is intelligent (college lecturer) very aware of her body as she's diabetic and uses insulin, eats all the right things etc etc. She didn't know until she was taken into hospital with a miscarriage.
  • That's a sad way to discover the news.
  • It's an interesting topic for me as a male writer, because I included a "stealth pregnancy" in my novel. But I've never been sure whether most readers will accept it as possible. I've just read so many stories saying it is.
  • I've been shafted so often in the past that it's a total mystery to me why I haven't yet given birth.
  • [quote=snailmale]it's a total mystery to me [/quote]

    Erm .... "wonders how to break it to S&M about the difference between ladies and men"
  • When you get to my age, and have regular hormone infusions, the difference is purely academic.
  • edited January 2013
    A good friend of mine on Facebook was expecting her baby to arrive in March 2013, but the little lad was born on Christmas Day, 10 weeks early, weighing in at 2lb 1oz, and he is doing absolutely fine. Understandably she is very happy indeed.
  • A lovely Christmas present, John!
  • It was indeed. The little lad has been called David, and has already earned the nickname "Big Dave" as he has put on four ounces in his first two weeks. My friend and her partner are overwhelmed with his great progress, considering his very early arrival.
  • Awww, bless .... :)
  • I was meant to be born on Christmas day. Then the Doctors said the 20th. Then the 19th. 18th. Eventually a new Doctor said I would be born on the 17th while the more senior staff insisted it would be later. She was right.

    I think there is a TV show with a similar title to this thread. Some girls (teenagers mostly) were too scared to accept they were going to have a baby. Others had medical conditions that hid their pregnancy .
  • LizLiz
    edited January 2013
    I knew I was pregnant because it was so interventionist - fertility treatment etc etc. I simply could not drink tea or coffee all the way through (oh boy, did that first cuppa, even made in a hospital taste WONDERFUL after!) and definitely got morning sickness but at odd times and nothing significant.

    But apart from those things I definitely did not FEEL pregnant in any way - at 9 months pregnant I found myself running down the village to post a parcel (it was December) and thought - maybe I shouldn't be doing this. I could still sleep on my front. With both my babies they went quite far down into my pelvis and they couldn't measure how big they were accurately, and i felt fine and dandy.

    I can quite see how someone who doesn't think it has been posible to get pregnant could be pregnant without realising it, especially if they were bit chubby. Mine showed at about 8 and a half months with my first. And i only weighed 8 and a half stone at 9 months pregnant, and I'm five foot 8.
  • To be fair Liz I don't think there is anything that tastes better than hospital tea and toast after delivering a baby. It only tastes good in the delivery room though, anywhere else in the hospital it tastes fairly grim.
  • Maybe due to temorary hormonal changes that toast and tea tastes totally different in the delivery room, not that I have ever had the pleasure to be honest as I am a confirmed spinster. With all the moving around with Dad in the Navy- well admittedly I went to an all girl's school but on the whole I had too many things to do to settle down with a chap, I have had one or two close calls and I am not adverse to men, just rather choosy as well. It is also quite possible not to know you are pregnant I suppose if the baby is quite small, my poor mother knew she was preggie alright, told it would be due in early September, on her birthday to be exact. I was four weeks overdue and kept turning around inside her, how, that is open to conjecture but thatis what I was told.
  • I changed my Dr after he told me I was a preggie-weggie-girly.
  • In those exact words, Liz?
  • [quote=Liz] a preggie-weggie-girly[/quote]

    Is this a modern technical term?
  • You were right to switch.
  • [quote=Liz]I changed my Dr after he told me I was a preggie-weggie-girly. [/quote]

    He sounds a right silly-willy-Docty.
  • It was 25 years ago, but Gordon Bennet was I incensed.
  • [quote=Liz]It was 25 years ago, but Gordon Bennet was I incensed.

    Why? Weren't you actually pregnant?
  • [quote=Liz]I changed my Dr after he told me I was a preggie-weggie-girly.[/quote]

    Someone ought to tell him the gas and air is for the mother, not the doctor.
  • I think he must have been reading the Ladybird story where Henny Penny, Foxy Loxy and Goosey Loosey, among others, are fearful that the sky is about to fall on them.
  • He was a paternalistic, misogynistic, condescending git.
  • [quote=Liz]He was a paternalistic, misogynistic, condescending git. [/quote]


    Not a Ladybird fan, then . . .
  • LOL! i have to admit, that as a Dr for the elderly, he was magnificent.

    He specialised in OAPs, something I didn't know as my mum came to live with me when she was dying, she was only there for a day as the second night something went wrong and she had to go to hospital, but he was the Dr who attended in the first instance. He was fabulous with her.

    But not for me, I'm afraid.

    There are still people out there who feel safer being patronised by their Dr.
  • Stop mincing your words, Liz, and tell us what you really think!
  • LOL! Sadly, I don't come with a filter.
  • [quote=Liz]LOL! Sadly, I don't come with a filter. [/quote]

    Try a stocking on your head.
  • I don't like hats, I don't have enough hair to fight back. I end up looking like a raw sausage dipped in brown sauce.
  • [quote=Liz]I end up looking like a raw sausage dipped in brown sauce. [/quote]

    It could be worse.

    No, actually, it couldn't.
  • [quote=Liz]He was a paternalistic, misogynistic, condescending git.[/quote]

    Somebody talking about me?

    I've never even posed as a doctor, let alone been one.
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