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Yesterday was a very bad day.
I got home to two rejections, one from TAB, one from Woman's Weekly. Then I spent 45mins trying to get my laptop to work so I could at least plod on with NaNoWriMo.
Got all upset last night. Am I wasting my time with all this? I just seem to be hitting a brick wall and at the moment I can't see myself getting anywhere with it.
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Go and make yourself your favourite drink and grab a bar of chocolate. Eat and absorb the feel good feelings.
WHAT YOU ARE FEELING AT THE MOMENT IS NORMAL!!! :)
Take it from all of us, the brick wall really isn't that big, and it's actually just paper, and you can just walk through it or climb over it.
Believe in yourself.
You're not wasting your time; whatever you write is part of the learning process because you learn more about yourself as a writer. Doesn't matter whether it's good or bad or indifferent. That's how we all become better writers.
Good luck for next time, and send the stories out again immediately while you write the next one.
It may not be that your work was not good enough - work is rejected for reasons other than poor quality. Perhaps you didn't write it in the style they are looking for. Studying the market is one of the fundamentals of any writing tutorial and I was on the People's Friend website recently and they can't stress enough the importance of studying back issues so that you can tailor your submission to fit in with their style. Apologies if you have done this already. It could also be that someone else has submitted a similar article or maybe it just wasn't for them. Rejection doesn't automatically mean poor quality work.
I certainly wouldn't throw in the towel.
Good luck.
keep going and neer give up
Don't give up. Use this hardship to fuel your writing, and I'm sure your determination will pay off.
(((((emma)))))
*SA*
big hugs (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((emma))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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In 2006 I had a blitz over the summer and wrote and submitted 19 stories for competitions. Only one came back as a winner, but that made all the difference. Legend published the story in their 2007 collection and then the following year published my novel. But I still remember how hard it was to keep on sending those stories out even with the knowledge that they would likely come to nothing. And believe it or not its still hard to write now because the self-doubt remains even after a success like that.
Onwards and upwards troops! Things can only get better.
Hugs to you Emma.
Thanks to all, I don't know what I would do without TB xxx
Big hug from me too (((((Emma))))
True...so true...Look at me I've been on the verge of giving up for the past five years...still here...still pounding away at the keyboard. Think of it this way, it's helping you develop a thick skin, so you can cope with all those jealous b****** that will say terrible things about you in blogs when you earn your fifth million.
I'm finding out right now that between essays and being unemployed (first time for me), writing is saving my sanity!
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I am not giving up: all three will be out again by the end of the week. And no doubt they'll be back by New Year.
How long have you been doing this?
Exactly. Not very long.
Never give up. You just haven't hit a sweet spot with anyone yet, but you will - even though it'll take time.
I know perfectly well you don't really want to give up, anyway. You need that cup of tea, a good scream (we're listening) and then you need to sit down and try again. Write by hand if you have to, who says you need a computer to write!
You can do it. Nobody said it would be quick or easy. The more you write, the better you get, the better you get, the more you send out, the more you send out - by the law of averages - the chance of you getting a 'winner' is much higher.
Now - blow your nose. Chin up. Grit teeth in determined fashion.
Repeat after me: I can do this, I can do this, I can do this
Good luck. Thinking of you. We've all been there ... and we all still get rejections too - only we call them 'rewrites' or something if we don't like the word!
I'm sure you'll get a lucky break soon, so don't give up. As Betsie said it's only the people who submit their work who can get a rejection slip, so even though it's a negative blip - and one that can change into a positive - at least your work is being submitted and being given a chance :) Those who don't submit won't get anything in return for their efforts, so you've already achieved more than them by having the courage to send your stories out in the first place.
In teh words of teh song:
Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, start all over again! (must have been written for writers) You can do it gal, and get your laptop fixed :D :D
(((((((((((Emma)))))))))))))
Winter does seem to make everyday things seem a bit of a slog at times, I'm going to get an eco bulb, an energy
saving lightblub which is said to 'closely replicate daylight' (said by those who are charging 9.99 a pop for them I hasten to add - they're unlikely to say nah, they're rubbish) Anyway, I am going to try one. I'll let you know if it's any good.
Lightblub? Did I type that? oh well, a lightblub is when life gets on top of me and I have a quick cry to relieve the pressure. Call My Bluff anyone?
Don't give up
'cause you have friends
Don't give up
You're not the only one
Don't give up
No reason to be ashamed
Don't give up
You still have us
Don't give up now
We're proud of who you are
Don't give up
You know it's never been easy
Don't give up
'cause I believe there's the a place
There's a place where we belong - in the sometimes lonely world of writing
Marc.B
Don't give up!
As Dory in Finding Nemo would say:
Hey Mr Grump Gills
You know what you gotta do when life gets you down?
Just keep swimming
Just keep swimming
Just keep swimming swimming swimming
What do we do we swim, swim, swim
OH HO HO How I love to swim
When you WAAAAAANNTTT to swim you want to swim
I am feeling a bit better. I've had a good rest and am giving myself a bit of a kick. It is the time of year too. I thought about getting a sad lightbox thing but theyre like £100 and only work if you suffer from SAD and I'm not even sure if it is just down to that.
The laptop problem is sorted anyhow. The OH and I treated ourselves to a new one. I know it is a bit of an extravagence but the wedding is costing less than expected and a laptop is a necessity for us!!
I don't know what I'm doing with NaNo at the moment with the days of lost it would be a good achievement to pick it back up and catch up, either way I am not going to give up on my writing, it helps keep me sane and is part of me.
Thank you all so much xxxx
So glad you won't give up on your writing.
You know what you gotta do when life gets you down?
Just keep swimming
Just keep swimming
Just keep swimming swimming swimming
What do we do we swim, swim, swim
OH HO HO How I love to swim
When you WAAAAAANNTTT to swim you want to swim [/quote]
WOOOO!! Go Dory!! I always say that to dad when he's down, Cheer up mr gumpy giles...
Emma, I hope you feel, and things improve soon. :)
As has been said it is a wall, but one you can get through with a little perseverance you will get through.
I am hoping to get through myself...If I fail to do so I am very much considering going at it with hammer. Then it'll break...lol
Good luck though, but you wont need it.
:)
Kick on, Wolfie. Your time will come
So write for yourself. Write to make yourself laugh or cry or feel sad or happy. Write because it's raining outside. Write because the clouds are pretty tonight. Write because something you have seen affects you deeply. Write because you want to be silly.
Just write. Just write.
Enjoy the writing journey, everyone, because that may be all there is.
But still, those who wish to be published - dream on, write on, kick on
I feel that way most times, I have sat by laptop and tried to write but failled, I have the idea but the motivation or inspiration lacking the main thing is to perserve if you quit then your book will never written and there's a saying 'Write or get written of'. The main thing is keep reading lots of genres even the ones your not going to write about, just sit and think and do research if necessary that I what I do.
At the moment I am trying to write a childrens story that is a detective thriller however I feel I am like you only going round in a circle at present either writing or not so to speak so take a deep breath and then commence.. let me know how you do just out of curiousity.
Anyone got anything else to add, just getting a bit fustrating at times.
Phil.
I particularly like PM's message: 'All the best writers get rejects.'
I don't contribute much but I do soak up all the advice and support. Thanks :-)
I don't think it has anything to do on whether we're good or bad, but that agents or whatever are so bloody arrogant they don't think it matters if they acknowledge us or not. {Having a moment, soz}, as for your rejections I DO feel for you. It's demoralising, but we're all in the same (rocky) boat - although mine's submerged at the moment.
Join me in vodka and chocolate?
It's bad that you're not even getting acknowledgement, I'd not thought about that side. Then again, if they are that arrogant would you want them representing you anyway? Good luck with your book, whichever way you decide to go.
I'll certainly join you in vodka and chocolate. Here's to us. Chink glasses.